Healing Shame and Guilt in Addiction Recovery

Healing Shame and Guilt in Addiction Recovery

Unlovable. Undeserving. Stupid. Ugly. A screw-up. This is the voice of toxic shame. Just because something inside talks this way, you don’t have to believe it. Toxic shame can be an intense experience with addiction recovery. And it’s painful. You know that using or drinking was a terrible mistake. Maybe you were addicted to gambling, sex, food, work, street drugs or porn. You hurt yourself, your family and your friends. And you were hurting too. But today, pain is no longer an excuse to use or beat yourself up. Now it’s time for recovery. Pain is human. Feeling pain means it’s time to listen to what you need to heal toxic shame. You might even know that self-anger you feelRead more about Healing Shame and Guilt in Addiction Recovery[…]

Can’t Say I Love You? 3 Healthy Ways to Respond

Can’t Say I Love You? 3 Healthy Ways to Respond

Should you worry if you can’t say, “I love you” to someone who matters in your life? You may wish you could just set yourself free, throw fear out the window and say it out loud. You might wonder if there’s something wrong with you if you can’t spark a moment of tenderness by gently murmuring, “I love you” when you feel it. There is nothing wrong with you. Love is scary. Learning to love well is a huge challenge. Yes, it’s also one of life’s biggest rewards. You need loving connection to be healthy, feel alive and to thrive. We all do. We are all made to connect, seek friendship and love. But it doesn’t come on demand byRead more about Can’t Say I Love You? 3 Healthy Ways to Respond[…]

10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 2)

10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 2)

The World Health organization shares 10 important facts about mental health. This list identifies top mental health issues for people around the world. We compared these 10 mental health facts to similar facts at home. Do they match our concerns? We looked at facts about the extent of mental illness in Part 1. Here we look at facts about barriers to better mental health care. We share what we see about these barriers closer to home, and how to challenge them. Fact 6: Stigma and discrimination are major barriers to mental health care WHO: Stigma and discrimination against patients and families prevent people from seeking mental health care. US: People feel ashamed and afraid to admit difficulties with mental illness.Read more about 10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 2)[…]

10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 1)

10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 1)

Mental health is so important to the World Health Organization (WHO), they’ve identified 10 facts about mental health they want everyone to know. WHO’s snapshot of mental health issues reflects concerns for people around the world. We compared these 10 mental health facts to similar facts at home. How well do they describe us? Our related 10 mental health concerns may shock you. We want them to inspire you to make good mental health a priority for yourself and your loved ones. Here are WHO’s mental health facts 1 through 5 and how they relate to the issues we see: Fact 1: Mental disorders are prevalent in children and youth  WHO: Around 20% of the world’s children and adolescents have mental disordersRead more about 10 Facts You Should Know About Mental Health (Part 1)[…]

What is EMDR and How Does it Work?

What is EMDR and How Does it Work?

“I just can’t seem to get over my fear of snakes.”  “I’m so afraid my spouse will leave me.” “I jump at the smallest noise.”  Each of these statements reveals a level of trauma. Intrusive fears and startle reflexes may be signs of unresolved energy, trapped in the body from a previous experience. But it doesn’t have to remain trapped — this trauma can be healed. EMDR is a leading technique to support our body’s ability to heal this trauma. What is EMDR? EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a way to involve the body to help resolve and process responses to trauma. Let’s first break this down into its most basic elements. “Eye Movement” refers to our eyeballs’ ability toRead more about What is EMDR and How Does it Work?[…]

What It Means to Take Charge of Your Mental Health and Wellbeing

What It Means to Take Charge of Your Mental Health and Wellbeing

How many ways do we put our own well being on the sidelines?   So many of us put off taking good care of ourselves with thoughts like these: “It’s not that important.” “I just don’t have time right now.” “I’m not that stressed.” Today I’d like to help you gently consider what it means to take charge of your self care and your life. For many of us, old habits of mind take over, and we don’t notice we’ve forgotten to tend to our health and happiness. If we put our health and wellbeing off until tomorrow, we will never get to it, because tomorrow never comes; it is always today. What does it look like, mentally and physically, toRead more about What It Means to Take Charge of Your Mental Health and Wellbeing[…]

What is Reiki? Try This Reiki Practice and Feel Calmer in 10 minutes

What is Reiki? Try This Reiki Practice and Feel Calmer in 10 minutes

“I feel drained.” “I could cut the tension with a knife.” “Something feels off.”  These expressions reveal the deep, yet subtle, inner workings and energetic wisdom of our bodies. I am about to share with you five simple steps that you can use at home to relax and revitalize your body in about ten minutes. Think back to a time when you just knew something, without having any explanation. Perhaps you had a “gut feeling” that something was a good, or bad, idea. We can often feel the truth about a situation without having any visible evidence. This is called intuition, and it is regulated by the energies of our bodies. We are picking up on vibrations radiating from people, places, and things.Read more about What is Reiki? Try This Reiki Practice and Feel Calmer in 10 minutes[…]

Healing Low Self-Esteem with Self-Compassion–You Are Worth It

Healing Low Self-Esteem with Self-Compassion–You Are Worth It

Most people don’t realize the nature of the messages they send to themselves each day. “I’m a loser. I can’t do anything right, so why should I even try?” “I’ve always been this way, and I’ll never change.” “No wonder nobody likes me. I wouldn’t like me either.” With self-talk like that, it’s hard to feel good about who you are, or find enjoyment in life or relationships. However, learning to hold yourself in a compassionate light can change everything. Most people would not allow someone to talk to their kids the way that they talk to themselves. But it’s often our first impulse when we react to ourselves. Yet, we can find more positive ways to react. Using self-compassionRead more about Healing Low Self-Esteem with Self-Compassion–You Are Worth It[…]

What is Good Mental Health?

What is Good Mental Health?

When we talk about mental health, we think of having a sense of harmony in our inner life and relationships. Mental health gives us a sense of well-being, and helps us know who we can rely on for help or connection. Among many things, good mental health enables us to: Value and care for our body and physical health Respect our interconnectedness Be present to others in healthy relationships or friendships Accept our humanness with self-compassion Act to fulfill our sense of purpose or meaning Feel emotional highs and lows, yet be able to return to a sense of peace and calm It’s important to recognize what good mental health is. Everyone feels sad or troubled, or becomes upset sometimes.Read more about What is Good Mental Health?[…]

Inspiration

Inspiration

I want to open our time together with a few words that inspire me, that I’d like to share with you:   Change your thoughts, and you change your world ~ Norman Vincent Peale Light tomorrow with today ~ Elizabeth Barrett Browning Very often a change of self is needed, more than a change of scene ~ Arthur Christopher Benson Every moment is a fresh beginning ~ T.S. Eliot Why Oak River Wellness? Our practice, Oak River Wellness, gets inspiration from two things in nature: the oak tree, a symbol of strength, and a river, symbol of life’s flow, energy and power. They work together: the oak tree’s deep roots and stabilize the bank, while flowing water feeds life, and isRead more about Inspiration[…]